Anti-Fragility in Goal Setting: Embracing the Unseen Future

When it comes to setting and pursuing goals, it's not just about the destination but also about the journey itself. In this process, there's a powerful concept that can significantly impact your success: anti-fragility. Anti-fragility doesn't mean adopting a negative perspective; it means embracing the complexities of an unpredictable future and using them to your advantage. Let's explore how anti-fragility can strengthen your goal-setting approach.

1. The Controversial Consolation Letter

One unconventional yet remarkably effective approach to cultivating anti-fragility is to write a "consolation letter" to yourself, envisioning failure in your goal-setting journey. This letter isn't about preparing for failure; it's about building resilience and a mindset that can thrive in the face of challenges. By acknowledging potential pitfalls, you prepare yourself to adapt and persevere when things don't go as planned. This approach empowers you to view setbacks as opportunities for growth, rather than as insurmountable obstacles. It also readies you to focus on any mitigating actions you may need to consider when pursuing your goals. 

2. The Reality of Unpredictability

Setting goals often involves venturing into uncharted territory, whether in your personal or professional life. You may assume that your family, friends, or close-knit network will support and encourage your journey, as this is a common expectation. However, reality doesn't always align with our expectations. For example, when I launched my business, 72 Smalldive, I anticipated unwavering support from my loved ones. However, the response was quite the opposite of what I had imagined. This experience taught me an important lesson: rosy-tinted visions can lead to disappointment when the complexities of reality unfold.

3. The Adaptive Mindset

Embracing anti-fragility doesn't mean adopting a negative outlook. Instead, it's about wearing different thinking hats when envisioning an unseen future, especially when setting goals. An anti-fragile mindset prepares you to adapt to unforeseen circumstances, accept unexpected outcomes, and reframe challenges as opportunities for personal growth and development.

This perspective allows you to focus on solving the problems that arise on your journey to your goals, rather than dwelling on missed milestones or obstacles that you couldn't immediately overcome. After all, the essence of goal setting is not just about achieving specific outcomes but about transforming yourself into a more resilient, learned, and adaptive individual.

Although as an coach, my role is to encourage my clients to leverage on their strength to help them achieve the goals that have set in sight, harnessing anti-fragility is also a vital component of successful goal setting. It empowers you to navigate the complexities of an unpredictable future with grace and determination.

The controversial consolation letter, the reality check about expectations, and the adaptive mindset all contribute to a more robust and effective approach to setting and achieving your goals. Embrace anti-fragility as a guiding principle in your goal-setting journey, and you'll be better prepared to face the challenges and uncertainties that come your way, ultimately emerging stronger and wiser on the other side.

Back to blog

Thrive Amidst Uncertainty

Feeling stuck in life or work? Uncertain about starting fresh? We all encounter moments of stagnation and uncertainty. At Coaching At 72 Smalldive, our coaching classes help you cultivate transformative mindset changes and habits, to break free from this inertia. Explore our methodology, and subscribe to our newsletter for essential insights to kickstart your journey to growth and fulfillment.